Unconditional Love...

Most people who claim to love someone, but don’t really love them, don’t know what LOVE actually is????


Wrong notions about Love..
a. Possessiveness is not love  
b. Jealousy is not love. 
c. Lust is not love. 
d. Fear is not love. 
e. Keeping people all to yourself is not love.  
f. Expecting something from someone is not love

Real, true love is unconditional.

Most husband and wives don't love each other, most people in relationships don’t love each other, most people on the planet never experience unconditional love in their entire lives… or at least it sure looks that way. After a period of time it starts fading away. The Charm of the love vanishes.


To love someone unconditionally means that you love the person exactly as they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in the future. Since you are in love doesn't mean the person you love needs to change the way you want him / her to be or wish to be. If you love the person, you will love them even if they become something you disagree with.  


How many people can say that about their “love”? Love is not about you or your pleasure or your amusement. It’s not about what you get out of it or what the other person can give to you. It’s not about having a trophy you can show off with and tell people “This is *MY* girlfriend / boyfriend / wife / husband/ whatever”. You do not “own” anyone. It’s not about you feeling ‘proud’ to be with someone who always agrees with everything you say and do and never does anything you disagree with. Unconditional love means that the person can just live their life exactly as they choose and you will always be there for them no matter what.


So how do you fit unconditional love in relationships and marriage and sex and all that stuff the whole world keeps going crazy over? Love as a matter doesn't fit into any box, its infinite. People in Relationships try putting love into a predefined box and keep it there. 


Unconditional love is more of a spiritual thing. It’s not bound by physical things, like blood relations, marriage, etc. and the desire to procreate. The worst belief about sex being love has nothing whatsoever to do with sex. Most people are in relationships because they’re horny and / or lonely. But if the person they “love” suddenly lost their reason of falling in love for whatever reason, would they still want to be with that person? Would they get jealous if the person they “love” wanted to spend time with other people as well? Relationships based on needs are not unconditional.


The only unconditional Love I have come across and experienced is the love  between a mother and a child. A mother in this whole world is the only person who unconditionally loves her children, no matter what. She is ready to face every hurdle, every challenge that comes her way to protect her child. Putting her comforts, sorrows and problems, she puts her child's requirement on the forefront.


The world being very materialistic, it is very difficult for a person to love another person unconditionally. Very often people  fall in and out of love as if they change clothes or jobs. Love cannot be biased. People in love get married to start a new family, only realizing that they have made a mistake. After marriage they become the actual self, suddenly you don't life the person any more, for when you were in love you never being your own self and always tried to be one that your lover wanted you to be. You can term this as a being a hypocrite or so called LOVE.


Lets spread LOVE to our near and dear ones and not expect anything in return. 


That would be an "UNCONDITIONAL LOVE".

Tomorrow is a new day.....

Burned Biscuits - Unknown

When I was a kid, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then.

I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad.

I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed, yet all my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my mom and ask me how my day was at school.

I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that biscuit and eat every bite.

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits, and I'll never forget what he said.

He smiled at her and said, "Honey, I love burned biscuits."

Later that night, I went to kiss my dad good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned.

He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Your mom put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides, a little burnt biscuit never hurt anyone."

Life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people. I'm not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else, but what I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each others faults, and choosing to celebrate each others differences, is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

And that's my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of God, because in the end, He's the only one who will be able to give you a relationship where a burnt biscuit isn't a deal-breaker.

We could extend this to any relationship. In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship.

Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket; keep it in your own.

God bless you today and always.

So, pass me a biscuit, and yes, the burnt one will do just fine. 

- Author Unknown

Law Of Opposites - Bob Proctor

Have you ever paid any attention to the idea that there are "two sides to everything?" Think of how often you have heard that.
Look at your hand. It has a front and a back side. Your body has a right and a left side. The automobile or room you are in has an inside and an outside. You couldn't possibly have one without the other. 
This is an orderly universe, of which you are a part. The whole universe is governed by laws.
If you have watched The Secret you heard me quote the father of the space program, the late Dr. Warner Von Braun who said the natural laws of the universe are so precise that we do not have any difficulty today building a space ship, sending a person to the moon and timing the landing with the precision of a fraction of a second.
The law I am referring to today is the Law of Polarity or the Law of Opposites.
If it is a long way up to the top of a building, it must be a long way down. If it is a mile from point A to point B, it must be a mile from point B to point A. They are not only opposite, they are equal and opposite.
Everything that happens in your life today will either appear negative or positive. Keep in mind whatever happens must have a positive side to it.
A large majority of the population seems to be mentally programmed to pay attention to the negative side of life and unfortunately, ignore the positive.
Make a decision right now that, regardless of what happens today, you are going to look for the positive aspect of what's happening. Remember... every cloud has a silver lining. Do this again tomorrow and the next day until it becomes a habit to see the positive in everything. You will feel better, you will be more productive, and you will have more friends.

Thought for the day.

A pearl is a beautiful thing that is produced by an injured life. It is the tear [that results] from the injury of the oyster. The treasure of our being in this world is also produced by an injured life. If we had not been wounded, if we had not been injured, then we will not produce the pearl. ~ Stephan Hoeller ~

Letting go....

“When life’s strong winds come blowing, bend with them and let go. By bending, you will become stronger in new places. By letting go, you will be making room for the new and the better.” 

Poster written/designed by Karen Salmansohn

Unconditional Love

The fact that we understand deep unconditional Love and Compassion stems from our ability to relate to the shadow in others. It gives us the opportunity to let go of judgement and allow pure love to erupt from our soul, even in the hardest and most challenging circumstances.~ Wendy Irene.

The person who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones. ~Chinese Proverb

From The Secret Daily Teachings - Rhonda Byrne

A Secret Scrolls message from Rhonda Byrne
Creator of The Secret and The Power  

To desire something is in proper accordance with the law. You attract what you desire. To need something is misuse of the law. You cannot attract what you need if you feel you need it urgently or desperately, because that emotion contains fear. That kind of "needing" keeps things away.

Desire everything. Need nothing.

May the joy be with you,

Rhonda Byrne
The Secret... bringing joy to billions

Best person of your life

Footprints.......

"Once in awhile, no matter what age you are, a person needs to hear someone is proud of them. Tell someone you are proud of them and make their day. Your words could be the very thing that turns someone's life around when they see only failure and depression in themselves." ~Ginger Cooley

Thought process....

As you think, you travel; as you Love, you attract. You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts will take you. ~ James Lane Allen

I've made mistakes in my life. I've let people take advantage of me and I've accepted way less than I deserve. But, I've learned from my bad choices and even though there are some things I can never get back and people who will never be sorry, I know better next time and I won't settle for anything less than I deserve.

Really heart touching.........

I was walking around in a Big Bazar store making shopping, when I saw
a Cashier talking to a boy couldn't have been more than 5 or 6 years
old..

The Cashier said, 'I'm sorry, but you don't have enough money to buy
this doll. Then the little boy turned to me and asked: ''Uncle, are
you sure I don't have enough money?''

I counted his cash and replied: ''You know that you don't have enough
money to buy the doll, my dear.'' The little boy was still holding the
doll in his hand.

Finally, I walked toward him and I asked him who he wished to give
this doll to. 'It's the doll that my sister loved most and wanted so
much . I wanted to Gift her for her BIRTHDAY.

I have to give the doll to my mommy so that she can give it to my
sister when she goes there.' His eyes were so sad while saying this.
'My Sister has gone to be with God.. Daddy says that Mommy is going to
see God very soon too, so I thought that she could take the doll with
her to give it to my sister...''

My heart nearly stopped. The little boy looked up at me and said: 'I
told daddy to tell mommy not to go yet. I need her to wait until I
come back from the mall.' Then he showed me a very nice photo of him
where he was laughing. He then told me 'I want mommy to take my
picture with her so my sister won't forget me.' 'I love my mommy and I
wish she doesn't have to leave me, but daddy says that she has to go
to be with my little sister.' Then he looked again at the doll with
sad eyes, very quietly..

I quickly reached for my wallet and said to the boy. 'Suppose we check
again, just in case you do have enough money for the doll?''

'OK' he said, 'I hope I do have enough.' I added some of my money to
his with out him seeing and we started to count it. There was enough
for the doll and even some spare money.

The little boy said: 'Thank you God for giving me enough money!'

Then he looked at me and added, 'I asked last night before I went to
sleep for God to make sure I had enough money to buy this doll, so
that mommy could give It to my sister. He heard me!'' 'I also wanted
to have enough money to buy a white rose for my mommy, but I didn't
dare to ask God for too much. But He gave me enough to buy the doll
and a white rose. My mommy loves white roses.'


I finished my shopping in a totally different state from when I
started. I couldn't get the little boy out of my mind. Then I
remembered a local

news paper article two days ago, which mentioned a drunk man in a
truck, who hit a car occupied by a young woman and a little girl. The
little girl died right away, and the mother was left in a critical
state. The family had to decide whether to pull the plug on the
life-sustaining machine, because the young woman would not be able to
recover from the coma. Was this the family of the little boy?

Two days after this encounter with the little boy, I read in the news
paper that the young woman had passed away.. I couldn't stop myself as
I bought a bunch of white roses and I went to the funeral home where
the body of the young woman was exposed for people to see and make
last wishes before her burial. She was there, in her coffin, holding a
beautiful white rose in her hand with the photo of the little boy and
the doll placed over her chest. I left the place, teary-eyed, feeling
that my life had been changed for ever...

The love that the little boy had for his mother and his sister is
still, to this day, hard to imagine. And in a fraction of a second, a
drunk driver had taken all this away from him.

Please DO NOT DRINK & DRIVE.
MORAL-The value of a man or woman resides in what he or she gives, not in
what they are capable of receiving.

“One of the things I learned the hard way was that it doesn't pay to get discouraged. Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life can restore your faith in yourself" ―Lucille Ball

Real Love...

Distance is nothing when LOVE is REAL.

Success...

A young man asked Socrates the secret to success. Socrates told the young man to meet him near the river the next Morning. They met. Socrates asked the young man to walk with him toward the river. When the water got up to their neck, Socrates took the young man by surprise and ducked him into the water. The boy struggled to get out but Socrates was strong and kept him there until the boy started turning blue. Socrates pulled his head out of the water and the first thing the young Man did was to gasp and take a deep breath of air. Socrates asked, 'What did you want the most when you were there?" The boy replied, "Air." Socrates said, "That is the secret to success. When you want success as badly as you wanted the air, then you will get it." There is no other secret.

Moral: A burning desire is the starting point of all accomplishment. Just like a small fire cannot give much heat, a weak desire cannot produce great results

Crisis - a blessing in disguise.....

Out of every crisis comes the chance to be reborn, to reconceive yourself as an individual to choose the kind of change that will help us groom ourselves to the growth and fulfill ourselves more completely. Please accept change as they are nothing but  a blessing in disguise.

There are three kinds of people in the world, the wills, the won'ts and the can'ts. The first accomplish everything; the second oppose everything; the third fail in everything.

~Eclectic Magazine

Relationship

To WIN a FIGHT in a RING you should be a good BOXER.

BUT

To WIN a FIGHT in RELATION you must be good LOOSER.

RELATION needs SACRIFICE, CARE, PATIENCE.... 

When your mind is weak, a situation becomes PROBLEM. When your mind is strong, same situation becomes an OPPORTUNITY.......

When you are sad your life seems to be hopeless and worthless, but when you are happy everything seems to be wonderful, full of love to take up any challenge, to solve the problems no matter what...

Life is great, wonderful. This is the only chance of being human & to live life fully... Hence lets not lose the precious moments.

Lets share them with your near, dear and beloved ones.....

Let love and happiness search you.....

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somebody else up. ~Mark Twain BE HAPPY!!! :)
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LOVE.....

"Love comes when we least expect it, when we are not looking for it. Love is never outside ourselves, love is within us. Don't settle for anybody just to have someone. Set your standards. What kind of love do you want to attract? List the qualities in yourself, and you will attract a person who has them. Be ready for love when it does come. Be loving, and you will be lovable. Be open and receptive to love. - Louise L. Hay

Thought for the day - Love yourself...

"Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world."—Lucille Ball

Ask and you shall be granted.....

If you don't pursue what you want, you will never ever have it. If you don't ask the answer will always be NO.
If you don't step forward you will stay where u started with, the same place forever and forever.....

Thought for the day

Life is too short to stress yourself with people who don't even deserve to be an issue in your life. - An Unknown

Are you really happy in life????

Are you happy ? What Is the reason of our unhappiness/ happiness ? Is 
it dependent on others or within ? Do we need to reach out to those who 
are not happy or is it only the moral and social responsibility of only 
the priests and the clergy ? Discuss

On a certain occasion, during an elegant welcoming reception for the 
new Director of Marketing of an important London company, some of the 
wives of the other Directors, who wanted to get acquainted with the new 
spouse, asked her with some hesitation; “ Does your spouse make you 
happy, truly happy’?
The husband , who at the moment was not at her side, but was 
sufficiently near to hear the question, paid attention to the 
conversation , sitting up slightly feeling secure, even filling his 
chest lightly in pride, knowing that his spouse would answer 
affirmatively, since she had always been there for him during their 
marriage. Nevertheless , both to his and their surprise she replied 
simply;” No, no he doesn’t make happy….
The room became uncomfortably silent as if everyone were listening to 
the spouse’s response. The husband was petrified. He couldn’t believe 
what his wife was saying, especially at such an important occasion for 
him. To the amazement of her husband and of everyone, she simply placed 
enigmatically on her head an elegant black scarf and continued. “ No , 
he doesn’t make me happy….I am Happy”
The fact that I am happy or not doesn’t depend on him, but on me. “ I 
am the only person upon which my happiness depends. I make the choice 
to be happy in each situation and in each moment of my life. If my 
happiness were to depend on others people, on other things on 
circumstances on the face of the earth, I would be in serious 
trouble!!! Everything that exists in this life changes continually: 
humans, wealth, my body, climate, pleasures..etc. I could enumerate an 
infinite list…
‘Over my life , I have learned a couple of things: I decide to be happy 
and the rest is a matter of “ experiences or circumstances” like 
helping, and understanding, accepting, listening, consoling and with my 
spouse I have lived and practiced this many times….
Happiness will always be found in forgiveness and in loving yourself 
and others….Its is not the responsibility of my spouse to make me 
happy. He also has his “ experiences or circumstances”. I love him and 
he loves me , often in spite of his circumstances and of mine.
“ He changes , I change, the environment changes, everything changes. 
Having forgiveness and true love , and observing these changes that can 
be, big or little, but always happen, we must face them with love that 
exists in each one of us. If the two of us love and forgive each other, 
the changes will only be “experiences or circumstances” that enrich us 
and give us strength. Otherwise we would only be “ Living together” 
FORSOME DIVORCE is the only solution( ….in reality it is the easiest..) 
To truly love ,is difficult. It is to forgive unconditionally , to live 
to take” experiences or circumstances” as they are, facing them 
together and being happy with conviction.
There are those who say; ‘ I cannot be happy because I am sick, Because 
I have no money, Because its too cold, Because they have insulted me, 
Because someone stopped loving me, Because someone didn’t appreciate 
me” But what you don’t know is that you can be happy even though you 
are sick, whether its too hot, whether you have money, or not, whether 
some one insulted you, or someone didn’t love you or hasn’t valued you.

BEING HAPPY ….IS AN ATTITUDE ABOUT LIFE AND EACH ONE OF US MUST DECIDE!!!

Being happy …depends upon you.......

Happiness

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Maya Angelou

Smile and be happy....

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will at some time. You will have your heart broken more than once, and every time it breaks its harder and difficult to gather them. You will also knowingly or unknowingly break hearts. So remember how it feels to break some others heart the way you felt when your broke. You may fight with your best friend for silly reasons. You will blame your new love for a things your old one did. You will cry because time is passing by too fast and eventually you end up losing the one you love. 
So click lots of photos, laugh too much, make new friends, visit new places you always wanted to, love like you've never been hurt, hold the hand of your love and enjoy your every day, every hour, every minute, every second of your life, because every second spend being upset, is a second of happiness eluding your life, which you will never get back in life.

Love life to the fullest..

Love life so much that seeing your love for life,  everyone else falls in love with life,  with you.... Love is infectious... It spreads like an epidemic..... From one person to another.
The more you spread Love it doubles by leaps and bounds....
Love is an essential ingredient of life. Blend it with care, affection, friendship, happiness, emotions and sacrifice.
Keep smiling, it gives you strength when your loved one hurt you, knowingly - unknowingly....
In love expectations rise, but mind well don't raise your expectations, for at one point they ask too much and end result - you end hurting yourself and the one you Love......
If you have Love in your life you don't need anything else and if you dont have it nothing else matters.
If you are in Love, let it go and don't hold it tightly, for it is like the sand in the hand the more you try to hold it tightly, it slips off.
Hence, love life to the fullest for you never know what awaits you at the next turn of your life...

Keep Smiling and Be Happy....

Soul Mate of my life....

You be the guiding angel of my life and protect me from all the evils of life, provide me strength when I need it, be by my side always so that I don't feel lonely ever, give me your shoulders to rest my head, fill my life with full of love so that I can spread love and happiness to all, Be my mentor, my inspiration, my motivation, my smile..... you be my beginning, my continuation, my destination, my pride, my love. Be the spark of my life. Help me in reinventing my ownself, for you are my soul mate my only being to live life......