Most people who claim to love someone, but don’t really love them, don’t know what LOVE actually is????
Wrong notions about Love..
a. Possessiveness is not love
b. Jealousy is not love.
c. Lust is not love.
d. Fear is not love.
e. Keeping people all to yourself is not love.
f. Expecting something from someone is not love
Real, true love is unconditional.
Most husband and wives don't love each other, most people in relationships don’t love each other, most people on the planet never experience unconditional love in their entire lives… or at least it sure looks that way. After a period of time it starts fading away. The Charm of the love vanishes.
To love someone unconditionally means that you love the person exactly as they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in the future. Since you are in love doesn't mean the person you love needs to change the way you want him / her to be or wish to be. If you love the person, you will love them even if they become something you disagree with.
How many people can say that about their “love”? Love is not about you or your pleasure or your amusement. It’s not about what you get out of it or what the other person can give to you. It’s not about having a trophy you can show off with and tell people “This is *MY* girlfriend / boyfriend / wife / husband/ whatever”. You do not “own” anyone. It’s not about you feeling ‘proud’ to be with someone who always agrees with everything you say and do and never does anything you disagree with. Unconditional love means that the person can just live their life exactly as they choose and you will always be there for them no matter what.
So how do you fit unconditional love in relationships and marriage and sex and all that stuff the whole world keeps going crazy over? Love as a matter doesn't fit into any box, its infinite. People in Relationships try putting love into a predefined box and keep it there.
Unconditional love is more of a spiritual thing. It’s not bound by physical things, like blood relations, marriage, etc. and the desire to procreate. The worst belief about sex being love has nothing whatsoever to do with sex. Most people are in relationships because they’re horny and / or lonely. But if the person they “love” suddenly lost their reason of falling in love for whatever reason, would they still want to be with that person? Would they get jealous if the person they “love” wanted to spend time with other people as well? Relationships based on needs are not unconditional.
The only unconditional Love I have come across and experienced is the love between a mother and a child. A mother in this whole world is the only person who unconditionally loves her children, no matter what. She is ready to face every hurdle, every challenge that comes her way to protect her child. Putting her comforts, sorrows and problems, she puts her child's requirement on the forefront.
The world being very materialistic, it is very difficult for a person to love another person unconditionally. Very often people fall in and out of love as if they change clothes or jobs. Love cannot be biased. People in love get married to start a new family, only realizing that they have made a mistake. After marriage they become the actual self, suddenly you don't life the person any more, for when you were in love you never being your own self and always tried to be one that your lover wanted you to be. You can term this as a being a hypocrite or so called LOVE.
Lets spread LOVE to our near and dear ones and not expect anything in return.
That would be an "UNCONDITIONAL LOVE".
Wrong notions about Love..
a. Possessiveness is not love
b. Jealousy is not love.
c. Lust is not love.
d. Fear is not love.
e. Keeping people all to yourself is not love.
f. Expecting something from someone is not love
Real, true love is unconditional.
Most husband and wives don't love each other, most people in relationships don’t love each other, most people on the planet never experience unconditional love in their entire lives… or at least it sure looks that way. After a period of time it starts fading away. The Charm of the love vanishes.
To love someone unconditionally means that you love the person exactly as they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in the future. Since you are in love doesn't mean the person you love needs to change the way you want him / her to be or wish to be. If you love the person, you will love them even if they become something you disagree with.
How many people can say that about their “love”? Love is not about you or your pleasure or your amusement. It’s not about what you get out of it or what the other person can give to you. It’s not about having a trophy you can show off with and tell people “This is *MY* girlfriend / boyfriend / wife / husband/ whatever”. You do not “own” anyone. It’s not about you feeling ‘proud’ to be with someone who always agrees with everything you say and do and never does anything you disagree with. Unconditional love means that the person can just live their life exactly as they choose and you will always be there for them no matter what.
So how do you fit unconditional love in relationships and marriage and sex and all that stuff the whole world keeps going crazy over? Love as a matter doesn't fit into any box, its infinite. People in Relationships try putting love into a predefined box and keep it there.
Unconditional love is more of a spiritual thing. It’s not bound by physical things, like blood relations, marriage, etc. and the desire to procreate. The worst belief about sex being love has nothing whatsoever to do with sex. Most people are in relationships because they’re horny and / or lonely. But if the person they “love” suddenly lost their reason of falling in love for whatever reason, would they still want to be with that person? Would they get jealous if the person they “love” wanted to spend time with other people as well? Relationships based on needs are not unconditional.
The only unconditional Love I have come across and experienced is the love between a mother and a child. A mother in this whole world is the only person who unconditionally loves her children, no matter what. She is ready to face every hurdle, every challenge that comes her way to protect her child. Putting her comforts, sorrows and problems, she puts her child's requirement on the forefront.
The world being very materialistic, it is very difficult for a person to love another person unconditionally. Very often people fall in and out of love as if they change clothes or jobs. Love cannot be biased. People in love get married to start a new family, only realizing that they have made a mistake. After marriage they become the actual self, suddenly you don't life the person any more, for when you were in love you never being your own self and always tried to be one that your lover wanted you to be. You can term this as a being a hypocrite or so called LOVE.
Lets spread LOVE to our near and dear ones and not expect anything in return.
That would be an "UNCONDITIONAL LOVE".
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